The characterisation of negative thoughts

I was talking to my therapist a few weeks back about ways to combat intrusive or negative thoughts and ways that you can combat the negative thoughts that come into your head, and she told me about a technique she was taught that’s called “don’t be a dickhead” (or at least that’s what she called it). Where everytime a thought comes in you scream over the top of it using your inner monologue either saying “NO!” super loud, or “DON’T BE A DICKHEAD”. I like this, but referring to myself as a dickhead didn’t quite seem right for my self esteem, so I asked if she knew of any other techniques.

She mentioned a technique they had her do when she was doing her training, where they were asked to draw their bad thoughts as characters, like little snakes or goblins and things. Some even designed multiple characters for multiple thoughts. The idea being that those key words, phrases and negative thoughts would now be attached to this funny looking character. Some even decided to attach funny noises to them, like the crazy frog ringtone. The point of this being that everytime you have a quick negative thought you’ve now got the character and the noise to make you laugh, thus cutting it off and stopping you from ruminating on it.

I found this to be a really interesting concept, and I thought it was make for a really interesting project. I don’t quite know what I want the outcome to be if I’m honest, I thought a couple of character sheets could be interesting, or just some nice little designs. Something I would really love to do with this is maybe make little plastic models of these creatures, or maybe even plush ones where I could put a recorded message inside to show what noise they make. I did quite fancy making plush toys at the start of the year, so that’s something to be considered definitely. I’m thinking I might do a couple of designs for the different kinds of negative thoughts I have, for example a body image gremlin, a sobriety gremlin, a relationship gremlin maybe? either way, I think this is going to be an interesting one to do.

I’ve been trying to look into other mental health techniques that I could potentially work with too, or that could help inspire some ideas for this project. The articles I found, one by psychology today and the other by pyschcentral, did have some advice on how to stop ruminating (the point of this technique) but to be honest they were very basic and only really gave advice like “eat well” “exercise” and “make lists” which I always resent about these kinds of publications, because surely that’s obvious. One of the articles suggested dedicating “worry time” in your day where you take 20-30 minutes to just sit and allow yourself to worry, which is an interesting idea, but as a person who suffers with a personality disorder I don’t see that being very good advice for anyone who isn’t a neurotypical.

References:

Healthline. 2019. 10 Tips To Help You Stop Ruminating. [online] Available at: <https://www.healthline.com/health/how-to-stop-ruminating&gt; [Accessed 5 March 2020].

Feiner, L., 2018. 8 Tips To Help Stop Ruminating. [online] World of Psychology. Available at: <https://psychcentral.com/blog/8-tips-to-help-stop-ruminating/&gt; [Accessed 5 February 2020].

Self love hearts: designing a pattern and making clothes

A big theme within my personal life outside of college at the moment has been learning to accept myself and growing more comfortable in my own skin, and while it’s something I’ve struggled with my whole life I’m now in a much better place with it all and still learning and growing with it.

I’ve had a really simple idea for a cute little pattern for quite a while now, built up of a couple of cute little love hearts with messages on them, probably using soft pastel shades like muted yellows, pinks, blues, and lilac (a lot like the actual love heart sweets). I don’t know how many I would have within the pattern, I’m thinking maybe 2 or 3 with a message in each one maybe with some flowers or something but the same design with a change in message in each one. I don’t know how many quotes/messages I want to go with just yet. I’ve played around with different concepts and ideas that I could potentially use or draw inspiration from for the messages I could use, and I thought this could possibly be a nice way to take what I’ve learned about self love and self acceptance and share it with others.

For a little while I thought famous quotes could be an interesting way to go with it, but I realised fairly quick that they would just be completely out of place and wouldn’t make a lot of sense. The message would have to be something cute, sweet, positive and upbeat to tie in with the imagery being used. I thought about doing something with a strong girl power kind of message, but again, the imagery I’m wanting to use is quite soft and fun and positive, and if it’s going to exclude anyone then I feel like it’s taking away from the message I want to portray, and as I would eventually like to make it into a set of apparel so the more inclusive the better.

I think the idea of it holding positive messages of self love is really nice and uplifting, and it’s something we all need and something that affects everyone. I don’t quite know what kind of quotes or exactly what the messages will be just yet but I’m going to make some mood boards and maybe ask around through Instagram what personal ones people use that work so I can have a few different sets to make a pattern with rather than it being exactly the same all over. I have been researching some articles and seeing what advice they give on how to practice self love, or how to cultivate it, so see if I could quote anything from the advice that’s been given. My favourite technique on self love from The Tiny Bhudda is to “practice being someone who loves”. What the author means by this is focusing on what you love about the mundane things in your life and finding the positives around you, before trying to find the positives in yourself. This is absolutely something I live by too. Both the Tiny Bhudda and Psychology Today’s articles both stressed the importance that self care has when practicing self love, without building healthy habits and taking care of yourself you’re way more likely to feel down because of how our brains are effected by what we put into our bodies and how we treat them.

I plan on making a couple of things with it once it’s printed onto fabric. I’d like to make some joggers, a skirt, and I was thinking a t shirt or a cropped tee would be cool, and so I’m not wasting loads of fabric I thought I could make scrunchies using the scraps. Now I myself am not a fantastic seamstress, but fortunatley my gran was a dress maker for Fenwick’s for a while before she retired. So she’ll probably be able to give me a hand.

References:

Stenvinkel, M., n.d. Be Good To Yourself: 10 Powerful Ways To Practice Self-Love – Tiny Buddha. [online] Tiny Buddha. Available at: <https://tinybuddha.com/blog/be-good-to-yourself-10-powerful-ways-to-practice-self-love/&gt; [Accessed 7 February 2020].

Khoshaba, D., 2012. A Seven-Step Prescription For Self-Love. [online] Psychology Today. Available at: <https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/get-hardy/201203/seven-step-prescription-self-love&gt; [Accessed 5 February 2020].

Personal Project: Poetry book

For my second personal project of the year I’m wanting to write and illustrate my own poetry book. Last year as part of my portfolio I took some of the poems I wrote in the first 6 months of me getting sober and I turned them into a little zine, I also took a bunch of photos in all of the old bars and stuff I used to drink in and I was pretty proud of it. A lot of people seemed to like it (most of those people being my friends and relatives who were likely to scared to be honest with me in case it caused some kind of breakdown) and I really enjoyed making it, so we’re at it again! but this time with a bit of a twist!

I’m thinking of calling it the sad girls guide to live, given that a lot of my poetry is really depressing. I mostly tend to write when I need to shake some angst out and take those negative feelings out of my body and into something else, so they’re more like aggressive inner monologues than lovely poems. You know when you watch indie movies about hipsters and the poetry they write for slams? yeah. That’s me. I’m the hipster trash we all know and love. They all hold some kind of significance to my mental health whether that be how I cope with my borderline personality disorder, getting sober or just generally trying to work my way through the world while living with an incurable mental illness.

Those poems are all things I’ve written over the past year and I’ll likely try and add a few more in. My idea for the illustrations to go along with them is to personify the poetry. I know, genius right? now obviously if we were to personify them I guess it would be me, these are my thoughts and feelings, but I’m going to be taking some influence from artist like Mel Stringer, Heather Mahler, Emma Hayden and Gemma Flack to make these personifications a little more bubblegum princess than how depressing the subject matter is. I’ll be putting a bit of a twist on some of them, like some of the characters having holes in their chests to symbolise being empty, or having their hearts outside their chests and chained to their bodies. I haven’t got it all worked out yet but ya better believe it’s going to be wicked!

References:

Emma Hayden, E. (2019). Emma Hayden (@emmahaydenart) • Instagram photos and videos. [online] Instagram.com. Available at: https://www.instagram.com/emmahaydenart/ [Accessed 19 Sep. 2019].

Flack, G. (2019). gemma flack. [online] gemma flack. Available at: http://www.gemmaflack.com [Accessed 19 Sep. 2019].

Hayden, E. (2019). 👀𝕤𝕒𝕕 𝕘𝕚𝕣𝕝𝕤 𝕒𝕣𝕥 𝕔𝕝𝕦𝕓💦 (@sadgirlsartclub) • Instagram photos and videos. [online] Instagram.com. Available at: https://www.instagram.com/sadgirlsartclub/ [Accessed 19 Sep. 2019].

Mahler, H. (2019). Heather Mahler Art (@heathermahlerart) • Instagram photos and videos. [online] Instagram.com. Available at: https://www.instagram.com/heathermahlerart/ [Accessed 1 Oct. 2019].

Stringer, M. (2019). Mel Stringer (@melstringer) • Instagram photos and videos. [online] Instagram.com. Available at: https://www.instagram.com/melstringer/ [Accessed 19 Sep. 2019].

Stringer, M. (2019). Mel Stringer. [online] Mel Stringer. Available at: https://shopmelstringer.com [Accessed 19 Sep. 2019].

Commercial project: House of illustration competition

So for my first commercial project this year I’ve decided I’m going to enter the House of illustration competition. The brief for this year is to create an illustration for each of the 3 poems given to you by the competition. The theme of each poem is love. What I’ll likely do here is analyse them and try to work out what each poem means (they’re all written in quite old style English, you know, proper poem language. Nothing like what I write).

The first poem is the good morrow by John Donne, as far as I can tell this is a love poem that is saying that up until he found the love of his life it felt like everything was dull and grey, almost like he had been sleeping his whole life but his life finally began when he met her and he sees her beauty in everything and his world view is completely revolved around her. It doesn’t actually state whether it’s a woman or not but according to my neighbour Bev who is a die hard John Donne fan he was into the ladies. The initial idea I had for this one was to do a couple lying on a bed maybe or lying on a sleeping bag in a cave (as a reference to the seven sleepers) or maybe where they’re just sitting outside of the cave, where they’re staring into each others eyes and either their heads or their bodies are encased in a bubble and then the background around them is very dull and grey, I was thinking of doing a bit of an apocalyptic scene in the background but I’m not 100% sure how I’d manage that.

The second poem is Wild Nights by Emily Dickinson. There’s a lot of speculation about the meaning of this poem, some argue that it’s an expression of her deeply religious views and her love her god but if I’m honest I’m not getting that from the poem whatsoever. Others argue that this poem is about sexual desire, and while I do think that’s more accurate I don’t think that’s all the poem is about. From what I can see from my research Emily Dickinson had led quite a sheltered life in regards to love, she rejected the conventional duties of a married woman and rebelled against the role of a good and dutiful wife. Emily Dickinson would never be married. She put her energies into her studies until she left in her teens to pursue poetry, living a reclusive life on the family homestead until she died. While she was unlucky in love she had many friends, both male and female, who she regularly stayed in touch with by writing letters, one of which I found to a Susan Gilbert (who would later marry Emily’s brother and become her sister in law) has an interesting tone to it. I’ll post it below, but from this letter I think it’s clear to see that Emily was in fact a lesbian, or at least bisexual.

“I have but one thought, Susie, this afternoon of June, and that of you, and I have one prayer, only; dear Susie, that is foryou. That you and I in handas we e’en do in heart, might ramble away as children, among the woods and fields, and forget these many years, and these sorrowing cares, and each become a child again — I would it were so, Susie, and when I look around me and find myself alone, I sigh for you again; little sigh, and vain sigh, which will not bring you home. 

I need you more and more, and the great world grows wider, and dear ones fewer and fewer, every day that you stay away — I miss my biggest heart; my own goes wandering round, and calls for Susie — Friends are too dear to sunder, Oh they are far too few, and how soon they will go away where you and I cannot find them, don’t let us forget these things, for their remembrance now will save us many an anguish when it is too lateto love them! Susie, forgive me Darling, for every word I say — my heart is full of you, none other than you is in my thoughts, yet when I seek to say to you something not for the world, words fail me. If you were here — and Oh that you were, my Susie, we need not talk at all, our eyes would whisper for us, and your hand fast in mine, we would not ask for language — I try to bring you nearer, I chase the weeks away till they are quite departed, and fancy you have come, and I am on my way through the green lane to meet you, and my heart goes scampering so, that I have much ado to bring it back again, and learn it to be patient, till that dear Susie comes. Three weeks — they can’t last always, for surely they must go with their little brothers and sisters to their long home in the west! 

I shall grow more and more impatient until that dear day comes, for till now, I have only mourned for you; now I begin to hope for you. 

Dear Susie, I have tried hard to think what you would love, of something I might send you — I at last say my little Violets, they begged me to let them go, so here they are — and with them as Instructor, a bit of knightly grass, who also begged the favor to accompany them — they are but small, Susie, and I fear not fragrant now, but they will speak to you of warm hearts at home, and of something faithful which “never slumbers nor sleeps” — Keep them ‘neath your pillow, Susie, they will make you dream of blue-skies, and home, and the “blessed contrie”! You and I will have an hour with “Edward” and “Ellen Middleton”, sometime when you get home — we must find out if some things contained therein are true, and if they are, what you and me are coming to! 

Now, farewell, Susie, and Vinnie sends her love, and mother her’s, and I add a kiss, shyly, lest there is somebody there! Don’t let them see, willyou Susie?”

After reading this letter, amongst others, I think it’s clear that Wild Nights isn’t necessarily about sex, but rather a sexual awakening and the realisation of Emily’s feelings towards women. The comparisons with the storm are supposed to be her conflicting feelings about her sexuality, and I think overall the poem is about her feeling lonely as she knows she’ll never be fully able to explore any feelings she may have for another woman, and ultimately what Emily isn’t to be someone’s dull and dutiful wife but in fact what she wants is to experience true and real love with a partner as opposed to being a slave to a man.

So, what’s my idea? I have two rough ones. The first idea is in keeping with the sailing references where there are two boats; one a sort of luxury cruiser type (I don’t know, a fancy one) and one a sort of raft (a crappy one) sailing apart from each-other. A woman is chained to the sail of the raft and crying out to another woman who screams from the balcony of the cruiser as she’s being carried away by a man. Obviously the background will be them surrounded by rough seas in the night. My other idea is to have a sort of portrait where there are two naked women, one is sort of staring off into the distance like she’s in a bit of a trance, maybe stood on a balcony where there are like leaves over grown all over the walls and then a sort of see through ghostly like woman embracing her from behind. I’m not sure how well these fit the poem, but it is supposed to be abstract, so I’ll see how they develop from here on out.

The final poem is The Trick by Imtiz Dharker, who I believe collected the poems for the competitions. Now, the poet says she wrote this about a dream she had, and I’ve read some of other peoples thoughts or reviews of the poem who suggest that it could be erotic, but that’s not what I’m getting from this whatsoever. I think this poem is trying to say that the poet is missing someone and they can only visit memories of them when they sleep. So every night they go to bed and hurry to fall asleep that they can relive the memories with this person. Did this person die? was it just a heavy break up? who knows, but clearly Imtiz cared very deeply for this person and not having them in her life is hard for her. For this poem I was thinking of a person lying on their bed with their eyes closed, crying and clutching a picture frame, or maybe to tie in with the second one I could have another ghostly apperition lying next to them and cuddling into them. While I know the writer is a woman I’m thinking I might make this one two men, because I think it’s only right that when we discuss love we display that love comes in more than just one format. Or I’ll make the John Donne poem an illustration of two men. Same sex relationship transparency is important.

I still need to work out some of the details for this, but as I go through it’ll come to me more.

References:

Popova, M. (2019). Emily Dickinson’s Herbarium: A Forgotten Treasure at the Intersection of Science and Poetry. [online] Brain Pickings. Available at: https://www.brainpickings.org/2018/12/10/emily-dickinson-love-letters-susan-gilbert/ https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poets/emily-dickinson [Accessed 26 Sep. 2019].

Tafarella, S. (2019). Emily Dickinson, Lesbian?: Her Letter to Susan Gilbert, in June of 1852, Might Tell Us Less Than You Think. [online] Prometheus Unbound. Available at: https://santitafarella.wordpress.com/2008/07/15/emily-dickinson-lesbian-her-letter-to-susan-gilbert-in-june-of-1852-might-tell-us-less-than-you-think/ [Accessed 19 Sep. 2019].

unknown, u. (2019). Emily Dickinson. [online] Poetry Foundation. Available at: https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poets/emily-dickinson [Accessed 19 Sep. 2019].

unknown, u. (2019). How to enter. [online] Houseofillustration.org.uk. Available at: http://www.houseofillustration.org.uk/get_involved/how-to-enter-269 [Accessed 16 Sep. 2019].

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